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Tuesday, June 22, 2010

All's fair in love and war


There's my Happy Baby!!!

Thanks to all of you for your comments on my post yesterday. It really meant a lot to me. The blogging world is such a beautiful support system. It's something nobody will ever understand unless you are in it. It's one of the reasons it was so important to me to publish that post. Most of my blog is very cheery and uplifting. But, in order to truly share myself and be genuine, the darkest moments are important to share as well. Especially for moms like myself that live the dark secret of being physically attacked by our Special Needs kids. It was the roughest day we've had so far. I am used to the middle of the night meltdowns and even sleep in a defense position. It's actually kind of funny because my tween, Iz, and I both got it down. Pillow over right side of head with arm securing it. The other arm swung around covering our nose. If you don't cover your nose and he wakes up before you, he jams his finger in it. That hurts!!! One time I almost called 911 because I felt faint and couldn't get the bleeding to stop. Someday I will get Iz to take a pic of me sleeping so you can see my defense style sleeping position. I could take one of him... he has an extra pillow to cover his groin! Sometimes after the millionth time trying to wake Iz up for school I will just yell "Watch your Balls here he comes!!"... he jumps out of bed immediately, it's hysterical!! We tend to laugh at most things and its very therapeutic. 

I think the baby's schedule being thrown off was just too much for him. Routine's are so important to all of our children. I got some great emails from special needs and non-special needs moms telling me their stories. I felt so much better!!  Thank goodness for Summer School next week! 

Today we are going out to the park right after breakfast. I couldn't fathom taking him out yesterday after such a Huge Meltdown. Autistic or not... there was no way I could reward that behavior. We stayed in all day, he finally napped while I did the crazy rocking back and forth to calm myself down. After the park I am taking him to my friends moms house while I exercise. Hopefully I don't lose anymore hair or I will have to cut it all off. I was telling another blogger friend of mine, he's a smart kid... you see he didn't rip his own hair out! In order to save my hair and sanity, I think this summer we will begin non-school days at the park. He drives a hard bargain, but "all's fair in love and war".

25 comments:

Oka said...

You're a strong woman.

Jenn @ South of Sheridan said...

I'm so glad to hear today is a better day for the both of you!

I would wake my kid up everyday by yelling "watch your balls" if the reaction was that good! hahaha :)

Evonne said...

"Watch your balls" - that's hysterical!

I'm glad he's happier now!

Kmama said...

I'm glad you're feeling better and that's he's doing better. Your post yesterday just broke my heart.

Rose said...

So glad today is going better. :-)

Brittney said...

you are such a great Mother :)

Brittany Ciara said...

Glad to hear things are better, Jane. My mom used to have an autistic 3 year old in her class and I remember her coming home with bruises. It's true though, routine is vital to them.

<3 you

Amy said...

Changes are tough on everyone.. Sorry I missed your post yesterday. Hugs to you..

singedwingangel said...

I am so sorry I missed the post yesterday.. I wish I could have been there to offer some support for you. I went through much of that with my bff whose daughter is autisitc AND bipolar. She though is Aspberger's so she could verbalize, ony on days like that was she flown back to pre talking. Scary place to be. So glad things are back on track for now nd hoping summer school hurries up and gets here for lil one..

Meeko Fabulous said...

I'm so glad you're finding a solution for him! :) Keep it up. You're awesome.

riversnake said...

You rock, Jane! You are so strong and honest and open with the bad days and damn if you don't have an amazing sense of humor no matter what the day! Your blog never ceases to make me laugh. I think I'll be laughing about the way you wake Islam up all day!

~Jill

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*LLUVIA* said...

Oh good! it did get better!

visitoardc said...

I laughed out loud at your last resort wake-up call!! Glad you're having a better day. Following from TTA.:)

Denise said...

I am a new follower from TTA. My youngest is 3 and she can be a handful, I can only imagine the struggles you face with your little guy.

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lizhasalife said...

Glad it was a better day :) Your pictures were heartbreaking yesterday-as a parent we are all there at some point, feeling so frustrated and sad. HUGS!

Mama Zen said...

Damn, that's hard. Hang in there, lady.

Tortuga said...

ROFL about how you get Iz up! Oh that would be priceless to witness. I am sorry I missed yesterday's post. Big hugs to you my friend. You are a strong, brave warrior, keep up the fight!

Shell said...

Keep hanging in there, mama. You do a great job with him!

LL Cool Joe said...

What a great blog you have here! Very open and honest. :)

Mel Fraase said...

I wonder if that wake up call would work for my son?!
Glad to hear school's almost back on, I think you're right, a routine is super important!

The Henrys said...

Cute picture. I am glad today is a better day.

I am totally stealing your wake up line for my husband. He never wants to wake up, but I think he will if I yell for him to watch out for his balls!

Beverly said...

hope for a better day for you all. you are very strong and a wonderful Mom!

Alison said...

I'm glad you're having a better day today.

Had to laugh at your method of waking your older one up.

 

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